The trust. Teach values to children

Confidence is manifested in children when they feel respected, understood, encouraged and welcomed in a situation of dialogue and respect. The reason for confidence lies in the depths of each of us and, therefore, each person lives that feeling of confidence according to their personality.

Trust is a very important value in the education of children who must constantly fed with kindness and cordiality. Tolerant overcoming difficulties in finding confidence takes hold. To teach values ​​to children, this diet is very important because confidence is very fragile and lost with doubts, oversights, estrangement, betrayals and follies.

Tips to build confidence in children

1. Promoting sincerity. Teach them to be honest and tell the truth, even if it hurts.

2. Establish a climate of coexistence with flexibility and tolerance. The tranquility that generates in children living in an optimal climate of coexistence stimulates their trust in others and in himself.

3. Develop spontaneity. Being spontaneous thoughts and feelings helps create a climate of confidence both in the family and with friends.

4. Agreeing standards of discipline. Setting limits helps children know what path to take, which increases their confidence in all areas of development.

5. Inclucar respect for others and oneself. Respect and respect are the values ​​that we teach children associated with confidence.

6. Encourage dialogue. Create a good climate of dialogue is essential to grow the trust in others.

Educating children confidence

To educate children confidence, we must provide opportunities to promote and increase their confidence. In this regard, we must guide the child to other values ​​that add points to increase confidence such as cooperation, respect, tolerance, responsibility, honesty and empathy, among others.

In addition, to educate confidence must know how to wait, to tolerate, to forget, to understand and forgive.

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Gratitude. How to teach values to children

Gratitude is one of the most appreciated and respected when it comes to educating children values. Learning to give thanks or thank recognition provides welfare and children. Like all other values ​​are taught to thank the example, modeling for children appreciated our own actions. thankful and grateful parents raised considered and considerate children.

Tips for teaching children to give thanks

You can teach and practice gratitude in different ways and at different times of the day. When educate your child in gratitude, it is important to consider how old you are it. Follow a few tips:

1- Keep in mind that children under 2 years do not understand what the point of giving thanks. They can say "thank you", but it will be more like a repetition of what you ask for what you really feel it.

2- From 2 to 3 years, children have a broader concept of gratitude. Seize to teach them that the act of thanking is free and thanking we should not expect anything in return.

3- example, both parents and educators, is essential when instilling this value to children. The best teacher to teach your children gratitude to you.

4- Children should learn to thank not only the material, but also by some gesture they have had with them. Thank stretch out your hand, let me pass, for calling me, for having prepared breakfast, lunch or dinner, etc.

5- It should teach children to give thanks for small things or actions. Also to be thankful themselves, by small efforts such as making the bed, making the backpack, homework, etc. Other than that, we can also teach them to thank for the good camita as they have, for their family, siblings, by her school teacher (a), friends ... That'll teach them to appreciate everything they have.

6- At school, it is very important that educators recognize the efforts of the children, thanking them sometimes.

7- Give thanks to the positive things that happens, encourages children to always do good. We must teach a child to be grateful not only with words but also with details, gestures, smiles, hugs and kisses ...

8- At dinnertime, a good exercise is to talk with the children and ask them what was the time of day so more would like to thank.

9. Another idea is to give responsibilities to children as picking up toys or help set the table, then have them feel valued when we give thanks.

10- Another suggestion would be to teach children to make cards of thanks on his birthday party, the presence of each friend. It could be a drawing or a simple message of thanks.

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The honesty. The values in the education of children

What is honesty? How can we teach children to be honest? Honesty is one of the most important values ​​in the formation of the personality and character of children. It is the basis of their relationships with others. An honest person attracts the trust and respect of others. What can we do to get our children to be honest with us, others with family and friends?

10 tips to educate honesty in children

To provide education on honesty to children, parents and educators have held a great mission. Follow some tips for the awakening of honesty in children is a reality:

1- attracts Honesty honesty. So the first thing they should do parents and educators is to preach this value example. Is doing what it can and not what can not, for example. It is to do what you say and say and promise and then not deliver.

2- To develop a child honesty is necessary to form concepts, knowledge, skills, feelings and emotions, experiences and experiences that lead you to be honest.

3- First, teach children to be honest with themselves. Bring to know its limitations, its strengths and weaknesses, and behavior.

4- It is important to know the children that honest behavior generates good friends and a positive moral recognition in others.

5- Being honest is striving to do something useful for the benefit of others without expecting anything in return.

6- Being honest is to respect others is not appropriate what belongs to others, is to be sincere in the relationship with the other, it is not to lie and tell the truth, however hard it is.

7- At school, teachers can invite children to draw pictures or paint and color them the aid stand out to others.

Children can internalize 8- examples of honesty through conversation, observation and play with their parents, siblings and teachers.

9- For every honest conduct children develop, reward them should know his time. The prize can reinforce this behavior in children.

10- Talking to children about the consequences of dishonesty. A dishonest person may suffer from loneliness, anxiety, being branded a liar, not having friends or the trust of others.

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The Solidarity. Teach values to children

What is solidarity? When it is said that a person is solidarity? How you can educate children to be supportive? Solidarity is a value that can be defined as the awareness of the needs of others and the desire to contribute and collaborate to their satisfaction. This is a value that must be promoted both within the family and at school, as well as in other areas.

10 tips to teach children solidarity

Children are not born solidarity, solidarity teaches children through many ways and in different daily situations. Follow some tips to teach children to be supportive:

1- Solidarity must be taught and transmitted to children especially through example. Parents should exercise solidarity among themselves, with their children, neighbors, friends and other relatives. It is the exercise that most promotes the internalization of values ​​in children.

2- It is necessary for parents to teach children to take the place of another and that can start by themselves. From 2 years of age, children are beginning to be more aware of other behaviors such as sharing, assist, collaborate, help, etc. That's a good time to start.

3- Be solidarity must be a rule and other rules of education.

4- communication between parents and children is very important. Communication builds trust children to the teachings and the transmission of values ​​from their parents.

5- It is recommended that parents talk to their children about what is right and wrong, as well as what the other would like and what they could do to help, to assist or cooperate.

6- A permissive or authoritarian education is not an ideal transmission channel values. To promote pro-social values ​​such as solidarity, it is necessary that the child receives a more democratic education in a positive emotional and communicative environment that the child is free to express themselves.

7- Discuss with the children some situations or events that reinforce the solidarity of a person and what she has achieved. Thus, they will be promoting this important value.

8- In school, we must work empathy in children, ie the awakening of concern for others. To help small to carry the backpack, school supplies share that has been forgotten and worry about a classmate who is sick ...

9- Solidarity is altruism that is learned and is strengthened with practice and exercise.

10- fighting solidarity gestures, attitudes and selfish, comfortable, intolerant ... behaviors in children is encouraged.

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Teach values. Generosity

Generosity is the attitude of a person to be useful and bountiful to someone else. The generous person is noble, detached and knows how to share. When children are small, everything is yours and no one else. All alone belongs to them. Children struggle to share and understand that not everything is yours.

Educating children to understand the value of generosity is a task of parents and educators. How do you teach them to share?

Children learn to be generous

When children begin to interact with other peers, either a friend or a brother, it is natural to develop a sense of ownership over their things, toys ... We can not say that they are selfish. It is a natural reaction like feel jealousy. That something is yours gives them security and therefore do not want to share.

To get children to be generous, it is necessary to educate them in this value gradually. If parents pass their small efforts will be encouraging them to continue with these generous acts.

The child learn to be generous:

- When you notice that your parents share and are generous. Nothing serves them that their parents repeat them "have to share, you have to share ..." over and over again. The example is the best way to teach. Children need to see that their parents help other parents and make them favors.

- When he is encouraged to be correct and generous with others. For example, when buying a candy bar, it is important that parents divide it among all family. "A slice for dad, for mom, for you, for grandma "

- When he learns to distinguish that there are things that are all, like television, food, chairs ... and theirs are theirs, like the bed, clothes and they have the right over them. They are yours and must learn to share.

- When playing with his parents and friends. Through play children learn to give, to wait for the time to take the place of the other.

- Listening to stories that talk about it. There are stories and stories about generosity and would not be bad to tell them.

- If they feel understood. We need to "listen" to the feelings of children. If it costs them to share, tell them understand that it is difficult but that sharing is good. Children should learn to share, but not by compulsion or imposition "

- Giving smiles and affection. Not only share things makes you happy other. A demonstration of affection and love also has its benefits.

- Living in an atmosphere of participation and service to others.

- Identifying the needs of others. For example, if the parent needs to write a message but can not find a pencil or pen to do so, ask the child to let one. It will make them feel useful.

- Children should never feel criticized for failing to share. Parents and educators should not recriminarles. Phrases like "you're bad", "are selfish" will not help to be generous.

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Manias and obsessions in children

Hobbies are habits and behaviors that are repeated often, and help the child to control some external events. As you grow these routines usually follow and strengthened some, and others disappear as hobbies that last too long or reinforcing lot can begin to interfere with normal daily life of the child, and become obsessions.

Obsessions are thoughts or repetitive, disturbing, unpleasant and unwanted thoughts that arise repeatedly and uncontrollably in the child's mind, causing a lingering fear and a high degree of anxiety. Obsessive compulsive behaviors can occur at any age.

Obsesion and children's hobbies

The most frequent in childhood are:

• - Wash or concerns about taking diseases
• - Repetitive behaviors bedtime or dressing
• - A bedtime need to be to retell stories and tales known as this will help them stabilize their expectations and understanding of their world.

Children in school often develop group rituals when they learn to play, to do team sports. Older children and adolescents begin to collect objects and to develop favorite activities. They are transient symptoms associated with development, self-assertion and the constitution as a subject.

When the child suffers from obsessions and compulsions

It is considered that children have a disorder when these hobbies, obsessions and compulsions take so long a day, preventing them from normal daily functioning, and significantly disrupt their daily activities.

When children can not do suffer from excessive anxiety, they manifest themselves in crying, screaming, hair pulling, aggressive behavior toward self or others, etc.

In obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) in children compulsive behaviors prevail against obsessive thoughts.

Diagnosis and treatment of obsessive-compulsive disorder

Early diagnosis of the disease and the application of special treatment when the first symptoms are observed contributes to increasing the quality of life of the child and to prevent the disorder may develop a more serious condition. In order to make the diagnosis is very important the support and involvement of parents.

To calm the anxiety caused by obsessive thinking, compulsion is done. A compulsion is a ritualized behavior carried out for much longer than normal, repetitively and without interruption. OCD treatment more effective and advisable would be to combine psychological therapy and medication. Psychological treatment includes cognitive and behavioral techniques:

• - Cognitive techniques help the child identify and understand their fears and learn new ways to resolve or reduce without feeling the anxiety caused him and brought him to compulsion as avoidance;
• - Behavioral techniques help children and their families to make contracts or set guidelines to limit or change behaviors.

The medications used to treat OCD are selective inhibitors of serotonin reuptake used to alleviate obsessive thoughts and therefore improve compulsive behaviors; and they should always be given and taken under the supervision of a pediatrician.

Parents play a vital supportive role in any treatment process supporting the child at all stages of the disorder and its treatment.

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Tyrants children

When can we say that a child is a tyrant? Child tyranny exists and it must be fought and controlled. How? Javier Urra, Doctor of Psychology, first Ombudsman of the Community of Madrid and author of the book The little dictator. When parents are the victims, it speaks of tyrants children, a behavior problem we face parents in today's society. Knowing how to identify the causes and set limits on children's education is essential to stop this attitude that can do much damage to parents.

What is the profile of the tyrant child?

The profile of a tyrant child starts at a young age. A tyrant child is not just a whimsical, not the one who has Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) or is characterized as hyperactive. There is only one oppositionist, is a child who, from a very young age, feel pleasure and enjoy twisting the wrist of his father or mother, to get what he proposed. It is a child that is characterized by a philosophical fundamental principle, which is first and then me. He thinks that everyone revolves around you, and you do not have to put in place the grandfather or grandmother. It does not show empathy and do not mind getting hysterically or shout at the door of a department store to achieve their goals.

What features characterize the behavior of a tyrant child?

Their behavior is becoming increasingly pathological as it grows. It is possible that at 7 years pull the chorizo sandwich because I wanted cheese, which at 12 years start insulting his mother and the 13 years between doing their physiological needs in the bathroom, while her mother he's taking a shower.

What prognosis have a child who behaves like that?

This is a process that degenerates with very poor prognosis soon. It has nothing to do with the teenager who hits a bang parents, which is natural and healthy, but with someone who vexes, which is very overbearing, abusive and usually against the mother. A third of small dictators are and girls, which is a poor prognosis for this society, but the worst is that it is a form of violence, because one who lives is always the mother. The boy is characterized by assaulting the mother or even slap her because he did not wash his shirt, for example, and the risk for future couple that boy is very high.

How can we educate children to prevent tyranny to parents?

We need to educate children on empathy to put yourself in the other in mirror neurons, sensitivity, compassion, forgiveness and learn to know forgive. No dictator was born.

What situations conducive to a child evolve into tyranny?

There are women who are alone in life and it is difficult to educate from loneliness, there are others who are with the husband, but it is as if they were alone, there are parents who are separated and malmeten against the other or ridicule the mother, there are cases that the mother contributes two children and father two others, but they have no moral strength to instruct the biological child or parents see in a burger sitting against 14 year old son and not knowing what to say because I do not know. In these cases, children grow in contradiction with no real reference in their education.

What he is mistaken society with the problem of children tyrants?

There is a toxic aspect of society in general that says children come first. Let's see, children are important, but not the first, I tell you, I've been the first Ombudsman. I find it essential to go to a hospital to know sick children, to go with the grandmother who has Alzheimer's, you may not know what it says, but feel, they go to camp and know what the effort. And if we put that antidote, the vaccine, we will continue with the problem. In the last year, we had 8,000 complaints of group 14 to 18 years, which is 1,000 more than the previous year, and the prognosis is not good, we must educate from the first moment, you have to socialize, and set limits, accept frustrations and know the difference.

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